I never make resolutions. I occasionally come up with some rough ideas in my head about goals for the year. This year, though, for the first time I’m actually going to write down a list of my goals for 2019. Maybe I’ll revisit it occasionally and it will make me more accountable! I mean since it’s already February I only have 11 more months. Or maybe I won’t and I’ll be back here in a year laughing about the year I tried to make “resolutions.” I broke my goals out in to categories because I’m a crazy person, so I have goals for my family/lifestyle that will include some effort or sign off from Jordan, and goals for personal growth.
These are goals that I feel will either (hopefully) better me as a person, expand my interests, or make me feel some sort of sense of accomplishment. (Think learning a new skill, accomplishing a milestone/dream, or spending time on a hobby).
Run a Marathon
In early December I found out that I got in to the Chicago Marathon! It was very exciting, but I’m also very nervous about it. Before I got pregnant I had been getting faster and enjoying running more than ever, but I am not a pregnant runner so it’s daunting to think about rebuilding after the baby comes. This month I signed up with Relentless Runners and will have a running coach who is not only also going to be in Chicago running the marathon, she is currently a few months post-partum which was a huge thing I wanted in a coach. She will totally understand the needs, limitations and frustrations for this race prep. I’m trying not to set any real goals for my first marathon other than finishing, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have a time in my head I’d like to finish under.
Read More Books
Last year I read I think maybe 4 books. I love reading, I just did not prioritize it and ended up spending more time reading the news on my phone. Sure, I tried Audible, but it just doesn’t compare to really reading a hard copy. I don’t have a set number of books I want to read over the year, but I do want to read more than 4 (HA!). I’ve already compiled a decent list to start crossing off of my list:
- The Marriage Lie : I’m a sucker for psychological thrillers so this one, and the next few fall in to that category.
- Then She Was Gone : another suspense-thriller.
- The Boy : annnd another one. I read the summary of this book and tried to find spoilers online. I couldn’t… so looks like I have to read it.
- Broken Things : another psychological thriller – shocking, I know.
- Then She Was Gone : see above
- The Alice Network : also a mystery/thriller, but from what I could gather this one is set between 1915 and 1947 and is maybe about women spies in WWI? So changing it up a little bit.
- Bad Blood : This is a book about the crazy scandal surrounding Theranos, a supposed miracle blood test. The company was valued at $9 billion at one point, but the technology was complete BS. Even if you don’t want to read this book look up this news story because it’s fascinating and insane.
- Calm the F*ck Down : non-fiction about how to help deal with anxiety and stop stressing about the things you can’t control. As someone who has general anxiety and had terrible post-partum anxiety I’m probably saving this one for after Reagan gets here to hopefully help control any of the extra anxiety I got with Peyton
- Atomic Habits : claims to have tips/tricks on how to make new/good habits and break old or bad habits.
- The Price of Privilege : I’ve never read a parenting book. This one is supposed to be about how kids from privileged families are experience elevated rates of depression etc. and explains why and what not to do. Basically want to read this to make sure I don’t raise a-holes.
This goal could also just be called write more. I really enjoy writing, I enjoyed working on my blog back in the spring, but when I got pregnant, then got a new job I basically said “Eff it” and as you can see have posted like once in the last 6 months. I want to make sure I’m writing for me, sharing things that I either will one day appreciate having a record of, or sharing things I care about that will maybe be interesting or benefit someone somewhere.
Family | Lifestyle Goals
These are goals that I need support or sign off from Jordan or other close family members to help ensure get accomplished. A lot of these are ongoing things Jordan and I talk about, work on, and then ignore for a few months until we have to start back at square one.
Be More With Less
I love and hate the above quote or phrase or whatever you want to call it. Probably because I have heard a variation of it at work for the last 7 years, so I feel like a nerd using the phrase for my own lifestyle; BUT, the concept is really a good one. Personally I am fighting a constant internal battle of wanting to get rid of anything that’s not useful, that I spend more time taking care of then enjoying, or that clutters our hose, but still wanting new items… that I know at the end of the day may end up in the category of things that aren’t useful. I need to clean out my closet, but when the majority of my clothing hasn’t fit for the better part of a year I know I have to wait until I can make more objective decisions. Luckily that means we can focus on things like helping Peyton go through her toys and donating to families in need.
The other thing I love about this is that the goal, once we get to a good/sustainable place in our home, is to be able to spend more time making memories and doing the things we love, rather than taking care of a whole bunch of stuff.
This has been on the list in my head every year. This is something that I ignore every year. This year I’m going to try… we’ll see what happens. (I’m aware I’m not a good adult for not having a budget.)
Capture More Memories
I was so great about taking photos during the time I was off and before I got pregnant. Once I was in the middle of morning sickness and felt/looked like a zombie almost daily the cameras went in to hiding. We made great memories the back half of 2018, I’m just disappointed I don’t have more photos that show what they were! I’m putting this as a family goal because the other piece of this requires Jordan helping take photos. I have tons of photos of Peyton and Jordan from any given week, but I can’t find many of her and I, or Jordan and I, or even all of us for that matter! So, it now becomes his problem too. I also have a pipe dream of creating a video over the course of the year that I can somehow compile at the end of the year and show him/our family? That feels like a long shot.
Create a Cleaning System
Yes, I am going to create a chore chart for myself and my adult husband. Imagine the kind that are used in elementary school where kids get stars for completing tasks, it will probably be something like that. Kidding! (Well, kind of, we really are going to implement some sort of chore calendar. It’s hard enough with both of us working full-time to keep up and we don’t want to spend large chunks of our weekends just cleaning. Once baby # 2 comes we definitely will not have free time to spend leisurely cleaning our house, so we figure the best way to keep some semblance of order in the chaos is a schedule!
I’m sure I will come up with some more goals as the year progresses and I hopefully start to check things off of this list – but for now I’m going to focus on not ignoring/forgetting these goals 3 months from now!
What are your goals or resolutions for 2019?